I feel like I am on repeat…

Life with two girls under four years old has entered a new kind of craziness…Alice loves to be helpful, which means that most of the time, she is over helpful. She is constantly trying to carry Holly or taking her hand and pulling her to where she wants her to go, not necessarily where Holly wants to go!



It’s a constant battle, Alice isn’t really doing anything wrong…she just wants her little sister to play with her. But, Holly knows her own mind and isn’t always that keen!

I feel like all day long I am saying…

“Put her down”

“Don’t pull her along”

“Careful with Holly, she is only little”

Not only is it exhausting saying it constantly all day long, I don’t really know how to stop it. It doesn’t matter how many times I sit Alice down and explain to her that she mustn’t carry Holly or pull her around, that she must let Holly do the things that she wants to do. Nothing works, ten minutes later she is doing it again.


I am at a lost…should I be discipling her for it? It doesn’t feel like she is being naughty. Alice is just wanting to either help me or play with Holly, is there really anything wrong with that?

Should I just leave her to it? What harm is she really doing, Holly isn’t being hurt. Yes, she might have a bit of a moan every now and again when Alice is pulling her along, but she isn’t screaming about it. Am I being overprotective of Holly?

They love to be together and Holly is always calling for ‘Alice’ when she is at preschool. I love to watch the bond between them changing every day as Holly gets older. Is this all just part of the relationship they have with each other? Is this the life of siblings?


I don’t know what the answer is, maybe I should try to just leave her to it for a day and see what happens. Maybe at the end of the day I won’t be so exhausted from it all and you never know if I don’t comment on it, Alice will stop doing it…yeah right, I am just kidding myself with that one!

What I do know is that those two little girls love each other and Alice is always looking out for her sister and maybe this is just a part of that. If it is then I don’t want that to stop, I want my girls to grow up looking out for each other.

It makes me think about what the future looks like, I am sure the same things will be happening over clothes and make-up…I can’t wait!


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  1. February 5, 2016 / 14:32

    Aww, no real advice as I just have the one, but my sister and I were like this when we were little, except the other way round – I’m the oldest and preferred playing on my own, whereas my little sister always wanted me to play with her! We did grow out of it! 🙂

    • February 7, 2016 / 10:43

      I have it in reverse, my eldest wants to play with my youngest and she just wants to do her own thing. I am sure as Holly gets older and can talk, that will help. 🙂

  2. February 5, 2016 / 21:48

    I don’t think there is ever a real answer because sometimes kids think they are being helpful and they are not. I think life is a learning curve and we just have to embrace it!

    • February 7, 2016 / 10:44

      It all comes from a good place, which sometimes makes is harder 🙂

  3. February 5, 2016 / 23:04

    I repeat things like this a thousand times a day to my teen son about his three year old brother!! He thinks he is as tough and robust as he is ( he gives as good as he gets though!) They are always pretend fighting. Kaz x

    • February 7, 2016 / 10:45

      Pleased to hear I am not the only one! I am hoping once Holly can talk, things will get easier x

  4. February 6, 2016 / 09:51

    I only have one at the moment although second due in May and you have just opened my eyes to something I hadn’t even considered maybe an issue!! I have no idea, but would love to know the answer if you find one!! Congratulate yourself for the fact they have a great bond though as thats something I want to foster between my two xx

    • February 7, 2016 / 10:52

      Ah congratulations 🙂 I am starting to ignore the times where Holly doesn’t mind what Alice is doing and that is helping. I am hoping when Holly can talk that will help things. Thank you, they do have a great bond which I love to watch. x

  5. February 6, 2016 / 12:38

    I think.. pick your battles… if she is hurting her sister and if it looks like her sister doesnt like what shes doing then maybe say ” look your sister doesn’t like that” but if she is doing something nice for her sister encourage it x and maybe ignore some of it x good luck

    • February 7, 2016 / 10:47

      Thanks 🙂 I am starting to ignore some of it and that is making things a lot easier and nicer for me. x

  6. February 8, 2016 / 11:57

    I’m not sure, I grow up separated from my bro and sister. However, kids love to be helpful and sometimes they force their siblings to do what that kid wants to do. Evenly as they go older, they grow out of it.

  7. February 8, 2016 / 23:23

    Aww your not alone hun, I have a 2 year old boy and just turned 4 year old girl and they definitly have sibling fights.. just keep praying that its just a phase and that all siblings are like it. X

    • February 9, 2016 / 19:55

      Thanks, yes I am hoping they will grow out of it. Most of the time they do just love each other, so I shouldn’t really complain x

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