I remember the day I found out I was pregnant with Holly so well, yet it is coming up to nearly three years ago. That moment that I realised I was going to have another August baby and my children would be literally two years apart.
As I got closer to my due date, which just so happened to be the same due date that Alice had. I know, how spooky is that! All I kept thinking was please don’t arrive on Alice’s birthday. Thankfully my prayers were answered and Holly arrived ten days after Alice’s birthday and one day after her due date.
I had my two girls, something that I dreamt of for so long and Alice meeting Holly for the first time will always be my favourite memory ever. In fact Alice still talks about it now.
Being a second time mum was definitely different, there was no time to relax and I quickly learnt how to breastfeed whilst simultaneously getting a drink for Alice or reading her a book.
We also had a wedding to go to when Holly was ten days old and we were moving house, life was busy. But aside from all that, life was crazy with just coping with everything that came with having two children.
It was endless, my days were a blur and I would crawl over the line every single day. Having both girls with me all day, every day, with no childcare was tough going.
And all I ever heard was wait until they are 4 and 2 years old, then life will become easier. I used to nod and laugh politely, but then end up crying at home thinking is it really going to be like this for two years. And yes it pretty much was!
It was the girls birthdays in August, Alice turned four and Holly turned two. Then in September Alice started school and I finally feel like things are starting to slot into place. I’m getting to enjoy time with each of my girls, it doesn’t feel as crazy as it was when they were younger.
Its not all plain sailing, Holly is at an age where she is a little monkey and into everything. But the great thing about being a second time mum, is that I know it won’t last and that we are heading to the her being three years old. Which at this point I know we will reach another turning point of life becoming easier.
We still have our challenges and we always will. At the moment its adapting to school life and not just the routine that it brings. But, Alice is really tired and this brings out certain behaviours. I find it hard to do know how to handle it, because I can see how exhausted she is, but that doesn’t mean she should get away with whatever it is she has done at that moment.
I’m hoping that a refresh over half term will help and she will start to get used to being at school everyday and the long hours.
But generally I feel like things are clicking into place, that the girls are starting to be able to do things for themselves. They entertain each other (and squabble) and they are lots of fun to be around.
I don’t feel like I am dreading half term when I will have both of them for a week. Instead I am excited and can’t wait to have some carefree days, adventures and make some memories.
Do you have children? Was there a time when life started to get easier for you?