The things I didn’t consider before I became a mummy…

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I had dreamt of being a mummy long before Alice came along and I thought about life as a mummy a lot. But there are lots of things that never even occurred to me or I had considered…

  • That there would be times that I would be poorly and I would still have to look after my children. I would no longer be able to snuggle on the sofa and watch friends, while dozing.
  • I would never go to toilet alone anymore and having the door open is now so normal, I have to remember to close it when I am out!
  • How much ‘stuff’ these little people need to leave the house, let alone when you go on holiday. I never imagined that I would sacrifice that extra pair of shoes for a pack of nappies!
  • That my house would look like I was running a laundry service. The washing is relentless, I mean really how do two little people create so much.
  • My life would be governed by the clock…Is it time to feed them? Is it time for a nap? Is it time to collect Alice from preschool? Is it bath time? Is it bedtime?
  • When my little ones became older, I would no longer be able to eat what I want to eat, when I want to eat it. Otherwise they want it too or I have to share…

I asked my husband what he didn’t think about before becoming a daddy…

“That when you (that’s me, the wife!) go out for the evening, it’s not easy to invite his friends round. Mainly since we’ve had Holly, the chances are greater that one would wake up!”

“The awkward questions that Alice asks me about the differences between me and her. I feel totally unprepared”

I asked some of my lovely readers what things they didn’t think about, here are a few…

“I never appreciated that I would be on call 24/7”

“How would I manage to have a bath, when my husband was at work” Its fine while they are sleeping, but you just know they will wake up the second you get in”

“That I would never get a full night’s sleep again! My children don’t like sleep”

“The amount of space that toys take up”

“I think the thing I didn’t realise was how hard it is to deal with them being ill or hurting themselves… or generally worrying. I was not prepared for those emotions at all. Just generally loving someone so much that worrying about them becomes so overwhelming! “

Were there things that you hadn’t considered before becoming a parent?


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  1. March 11, 2016 / 07:36

    Oh I agree, it’s so hard to eat what and when you want! My eating habits have definitely changed since my boy became a toddler. I never thought about how long it would take to leave the house. Sometimes I procrastinate over the smallest errands because I know it’s going to take longer to get out the door than complete the trip to the shops 🙂
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    • March 11, 2016 / 22:01

      Mine too, I can’t snack like I used too, which is maybe a good thing! x

    • March 11, 2016 / 22:00

      I know, why do we not have sick cover!! I agree, i overthink things all the time and being a mummy has made me worse! x

  2. March 11, 2016 / 11:19

    I def agree with your life being governed by the dreaded ‘clock’! I have to eat things in hiding now, my sons a foodie and as soon as he spots you with food you get ‘Oh woooow!’. Definitely took all these things for granted before children 🙂 x
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    • March 11, 2016 / 21:59

      Oh the clock!! It’s so true, do they need feeding, napping, bath time, sleeping…it goes on and on! My daughter is exactly the same, it becomes quite an art to eat in hiding 🙂 x

    • March 11, 2016 / 21:57

      It probably could have been a really long list!! Yes, everyday is a learning curve x

  3. March 12, 2016 / 13:25

    All of this really! I had never thought about the sick days and coping with caring for children when you feel rubbish, the washing is insane some days, the toys are everywhere! And yes so ruled by the clock and meal times. Children are not good if meal times are late!

  4. March 12, 2016 / 15:53

    I’m just getting to that stage now with my son where he wants to have whatever I’m eating, even though he frequently doesn’t like it. It looks like I may have that elusive excuse to start eating more healthily. #picknmix

    • March 13, 2016 / 20:52

      It can work out good when they want to eat the good foods that you are eating and I definitely don’t snack like I used to!!

  5. March 12, 2016 / 20:58

    Oh the first point on your list! I’ve been feeling rough all week and you just have to get on with it don’t you! So happy that the weekend rolled around quickly as I’ve actually been back to bed twice today to sleep while my husband took care of everything else. x #TheList

    • March 13, 2016 / 20:47

      Yes, you really don’t have a choice. It’s probably one of the hardest parts of being a mummy, when all you want is your bed. I hope you are better now x

  6. March 13, 2016 / 08:01

    I’ve got this to come, as I’m trying to conceive at the moment. I didn’t think of all of this, so you’ve given me an insight into what to expect in the future.

  7. March 15, 2016 / 07:40

    A lot of these change when they’re older…. and you strangely find yourself missing the days when they demanded so much 😉

    Thanks for linking up to #Picknmix

    Stevie x
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