I first ran the Race for Life back in my twenties when Cancer hadn’t touched my life personally, but I wanted to raise money for such a worthy cause. Then Alice came along and exercise went out the window, so I would sponsor my friends that were taking part.
Then sadly back in 2014 I was touched my cancer personally with both my wonderful dad and my beautiful friend, Shelley being diagnosed with different types of cancer, within weeks of each other. I ran the Race of Life for both of them last year on a very hot summer’s day with my sister in law, with my mum, brother, niece and Alice watching and cheering. My dad, Andy and Holly were back at our house getting a barbecue ready for our return.
This year with Shelley in remission she asked me if I would run with her for the charity Mummy’s Star, there was no hesitation in saying yes.
Here is Shelley’s story…
In April 2013, When Jenson was just 4 months old I was diagnosed with stage 2b cervical cancer. Then they found a 6cm tumour on my kidney. Shortly after I was diagnosed, my mum rang me and told me to put ITV on. She said a man was doing an interview about his poor wife who had died of breast cancer and he had two small children, he had set up a charity to help women like me. Anyway, I watched it on catch up, with tears rolling down my face, I kept thinking “I am going to die, how will Andy cope, we had only been married 8 months and Bradley was just 21 months old”. Mum said get in touch with them. I emailed Pete and found all of these emotions coming out. He emailed me back the next day and was lovely, again we got on and I felt like I could open up about my fears, he told me he had a forum for mums and he could add me to it. He did, anyway 5 chemo, 28 radio therapy 3 internal and surgery I am now cancer free.
Mummy’s Star and Pete got me through some very darks days. When I felt like everything else was falling apart I had these wonderful people to pull me though, I’ve made friends for life. Not just that they are like family.
Mummy’s Star also gave us a grant, to help pay for some childcare so Bradley could attend Nursery fulltime, to allow Andy to work and take some of the pressure off while I attend my chemo and radio therapy sessions. I don’t know how we would have managed without this support.
I had my amazing family by my side, two of my sisters were my chemo buddies, a husband who has been my rock even now. And some wonderful close friends, who know that even now I still have my bad grumpy days 🙂
Now, it is my turn to give back, if I can help just 1 mum through something that nobody should experience, I will be happy. Pete told me it cost on average £500 to help a mum like me. That can be through, transport to hospital, childcare, technical equipment, help with bills. The list is endless, the support is for a life time! I will always be a “mummy’s star mummy”. Also a special run for my mummy’s who sadly are no longer here. xx
Mummy’s Star is the only UK charity supporting mums through cancer in pregnancy, the first year in birth and beyond…
Shelley thought it would be a lovely idea for the children to run with us and I knew that Alice would love this idea. And I was right she jumped for joy when I told her.
There was going to be six adults and five children running for Mummy’s Star and we wanted to try and raise £500 to help one mum.
In my usual style I did no training for the race, the last time I did any running was last year for the Race for Life and I didn’t train that the either. But, that’s ok we are going to be walking for most of it with the children…aren’t we?
The morning of the race Alice and I got our running gear on, matching of course. Packed everything up and headed to the showground where it was being held.
We got in position ready for the warm up and I was amazed to hear this statistic…
“There are 120,000 people here today and 1 in 3 of us stood here won’t return their sponsor money!”
I can’t get my head around that, you get sponsors, you run the race and then you don’t collect the money or send it off??? That makes no sense to me and is so sad. Every penny is needed if we are ever going to find a cure for cancer.
We took the children to the toilet, as we didn’t want any toilet trips in the trees on the way round! Then it was time to start, Alice was a so keen to run and raced ahead with her friends. They were all laughing and enjoying it. Alice kept saying ‘this is amazing’. Andy, Holly and the other husbands and little ones were at the 1KM to cheer us along. One of Alice’s friends stayed with her daddy at this point, burned out early, while Bradley and Alice carried on.
At just over the 2KM mark the men had set up camp and I decided that Alice should have a break and a snack. She would have happily carried on and Bradley did. I picked Alice back up at just before the 4KM point and we ran the rest of the way and over the finishing line together. Honestly the children were better than us at running!
Andy and Holly were there to cheer us on and it was a great feeling to get to the end and collect our medals.
I was so proud to run with my friend on one side and my daughter on the other. And I was even more proud when we smashed our target and raised £1,500 which means that we can support three mum’s when they need it most.
Same time next year girls?
I am joining Katie at Mummy Daddy Me for The Ordinary Moments