It’s not very often that Andy and I get time to just be us since we’ve had our girls. So, when last night an opportunity came along, we took it.
Since having Alice, we have not had that many nights out together. This mainly down to having someone to look after the girls and also because we are tired most of the time.
A few weeks ago, some friends of ours invited us over for dinner, we see them regularly but we normally have all the children with us. It’s not always easy to have a good conversation and enjoy each others company, with little ones around. We arranged for my parents to babysit the girls, the date was in the diary and we were looking forward to.
Unfortunately their children were sick, so we had to rearrange the evening, something that every parent gets used and no one minds. This meant that we had no plans, but we did have a babysitter…
Friday night we had a bad night with Holly, which luckily for the past six months is rare, but it was a long night of Holly just not settling. Which ended up with her finally waking Alice up and the whole house was awake by 5.30am, we were tired!
If we’re honest with ourselves, all we really wanted to do was go to bed and catch up on some sleep. But, we also knew that having a babysitter doesn’t happen that often and we should really make the most of it.
So, we decided that we would go out for dinner and enjoy a couple of hours together with no distractions. I managed to get us a table booked and we were going out.
As the afternoon went on, we were really starting to struggle with tiredness. Normally on days like this, we are counting the hours until the girls are in bed and we too can get some sleep. I asked Andy if he still wanted to go out, his eyes gave one answer, but he said ‘yes, lets still go’.
Getting myself ready to go out is not like it used to be, where I could send lots of time deciding what to wear. Not it’s a quick decision, quickly do my make up and hair and hope I look presentable.
When my parents come to over to babysit, we never tell the girls and we get them to sleep before we sneak my parents in. Mainly because they love nan and grandad so much, they wouldn’t want to go to sleep if they knew they were coming over. It makes it easier for us to leave them and enjoy ourselves knowing they are in bed asleep. Not worrying if they are playing nan and grandad up and having to deal with tired and grumpy children the next day.
Everything went to plan, the girls fell asleep quickly, I got ready, my parents arrived and we were in the car on our way out. Yes, we were extremely tired, but we both know how important it is to make time for each other and to just be us.
During the meal, it gave us time to talk, to reconnect. Our days are busy at the moment, with Andy working long hours and it was great to just chat, without the distractions of life or children.
We talked a lot about making plans for our family holiday this year and how our life is going to change in September, when Alice starts school.
Yes, of course we talked about our girls, because they are our world and whilst we are with them all the time. We don’t very often take the time to chat about the changes in them recently and how far our little family has come over the last eighteen months when Holly arrived.
The food was delicious and I didn’t have to share it with anyone.
We didn’t have a late night, we were both exhausted, but to have that time together was worth the couple of hours sleep we missed out on. Because without Andy and I there is no family, there would just be two individual people with children.
Joining Katie over at MummyDaddyMe for the Ordinary Moments…